tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post3207543213102037703..comments2023-09-13T08:10:00.274-07:00Comments on Hurting Parents~Addicted Son: I Want a Do-OverChaiLattehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02336245380963797531noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-21563283226121686692009-05-29T12:16:45.911-07:002009-05-29T12:16:45.911-07:00I come back often and re-read these comments~ I lo...I come back often and re-read these comments~ I love everyone's input on this topic. Thank you so much!ChaiLattehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02336245380963797531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-28220468545119978062009-05-17T06:48:00.000-07:002009-05-17T06:48:00.000-07:00yah. i played the 'do over' game too. then i reali...yah. i played the 'do over' game too. then i realized, it was HER that made the bad decisions. I raised five kids, and a host of foster kids. they all turned out fine.<br /><br />there are a couple of extenuating circumstances I did recognize. she was EXTREMELY gifted. She NEVER had a challenge she faced that she did NOT excel immediately at. Until her junior year in college. then, when she was presented with that challenge, she fell flat on her face.<br /><br />so that makes me raise the grandbabies differently. I will make SURE that the two extremely gifted kids she had that I am raising have Challenges to face from early on so that they will learn to fail, to get back up, and to grow strong from adversity and challenge.<br /><br />then maybe, just maybe, with two heroin addict parents, they will have the coping skills for life so they don't crawl into a bottle, or a needle at the first failure.<br /><br />thats about the best i can do.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-8019711935242995072009-05-17T01:38:00.000-07:002009-05-17T01:38:00.000-07:00Chai, never too late for hugs and saying 'I love u...Chai, never too late for hugs and saying 'I love u'. Particularly not with a child. Not sure if a do-over would change anything. I think I would still make the same mistakes, if I was in the same situation as then. Love and have a great Sunday Fishy xxChangedithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02173276331979535531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-14567238528968250102009-05-15T16:56:00.000-07:002009-05-15T16:56:00.000-07:00I thought whether I would want a do over but I can...I thought whether I would want a do over but I cant think of anything I would change, I raised both my daughters the same and one is fine with no addiction problems and one is Kelly. Even with her being clean 7 months it is with guarded optimism that I celebrate.mother of drug addicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06053685023686786304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-61681017139638492852009-05-15T12:22:00.000-07:002009-05-15T12:22:00.000-07:00Boy, can I relate! I am learning to forgive mysel...Boy, can I relate! I am learning to forgive myself and apply the three C's too. I am getting my but back to Al-Anon tomorrow. Hugging your from across cyberspace....Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-87672235184624845472009-05-15T07:59:00.000-07:002009-05-15T07:59:00.000-07:00Hang in there. You are doing the best you can wit...Hang in there. You are doing the best you can with what you have. That's all that any of us can do.Ginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11927048986907155785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-51580863758587433602009-05-15T07:24:00.000-07:002009-05-15T07:24:00.000-07:00I hear you. I know that I learned from my parents ...I hear you. I know that I learned from my parents mistakes and I hope that my kids learn from mine.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-69181214323592327452009-05-15T07:19:00.000-07:002009-05-15T07:19:00.000-07:00Don't blame yourself! I was the alcoholic son. M...Don't blame yourself! I was the alcoholic son. My mother didn't do everything right. She did many things horribly wrong, actually, but NOT ONE THING SHE DID contributed to my addiction, or my behavior while drunk. That was ALL me. <br /><br />Now that I am sober, I appreciate her so much more.Dr24Hourshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10212511946268980294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-46636112721625904252009-05-15T06:59:00.000-07:002009-05-15T06:59:00.000-07:00If only I had a do over. How many times I have sai...If only I had a do over. How many times I have said that I am am so glad no one EVER granted that wish. There is no doubt in my mind if I had a do over the result would be just as bad or worse.<br /><br />Through all of this with my son I have gone through all the emotions and actions then re-hashed everything in my mind countless time. Maybe it's just my ego but the more I think about it I come to realize I was a good dad, his problems are his problems and choices. <br /><br />When I do look back it is not in a longing way to change this or change that. I look back in an effort to examine, "What did I learn?" Then the effort is focused on applying that learning to new situations. I am a very goal oriented person. One of my primary life goals is: Make only new mistakes. Keeps me focused on the future and not living in the past.<br /><br />Don't know if what I said helps you but it works for me.Dad and Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-83966488654730780342009-05-15T03:19:00.000-07:002009-05-15T03:19:00.000-07:00I like what you said about not being perfect. Who ...I like what you said about not being perfect. Who is but God? I tried to be the perfect son, perfect husband, perfect worker, etc. for all my life. It never got me anywhere but into self-hatred and resentment. I am who I am. And grateful for the program for showing me my shortcomings and my assets.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612758292365354958.post-36460527355570537842009-05-15T02:38:00.000-07:002009-05-15T02:38:00.000-07:00My little brother was released from prison yesterd...My little brother was released from prison yesterday. Although he had a chance to stay with my Mom, he talked so BAD to her that she stopped that idea right away. <br /><br />He said, "Mom, we live different lifestyles, it would never work." <br /><br />So, yes, some of them love the lifestyle and don't want to change it.<br /><br />(HUGS) I know it is hard.kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.com