perhaps it is a blessing in disguise.
I'm always surprised to see your name pop up, I'm sorry that it was for this reason. I know your fear, I may not have experienced the drugs with my son but he was in jail overnight once and he does have a felony on his record. He wrote a check on his girlfriend's bank account and her parents pressed charges even though she knew about it. Sounds like no big deal, we even offered to pay it, but they refused...so, a felony for the rest of his life for something so stupid. It was several years ago and it was a shock when he straightened out his life and applied for jobs etc. It does mess things up for them so if there is any way he can get out of the felony...do it. However, the one night in jail turned my son around. It scared him so much that it was the beginning of a new way of life for him. He never got in trouble again. So, I think jail (in small doses) can be a good thing. Luckily someone took a chance and hired my son and he has been there 3 years...a felony charge isn't a great thing but it isn't the worst thing either as I'm sure you already know. Hang in there...I'll be thinking of you.
So he has hit the end of his road....that is ok. I will be praying...my God box has a little slip of paper in it that says "Chai Latte's son" on it.
Many people have found a new perspective in jail. Trust God to do a mighty work in your son. I am praying for his eyes to be opened to God's vision for his life - a new, healthy, and beautiful life. I had my son put in jail because he deserved it. He had stolen his brother's and sister's hard earned money for heroin. I let the law do its work. And it has definitely helped my son who used to be a defiant, bull headed, narcissistic jerk. He is now yet fragile, but so much more mature, thoughtful, and responsible. I cling to the scripture to "be anxious for nothing, but by prayer...let your requests be made known to God"...and he will give you peace. This journey is tough, but we are walking it with you too.- Deirdre
Wow...I'm so happy to hear from you (I miss you) but I'm sorry for the reason. Jail can often be a blessing; and sometimes I think only parents of addicted sons and daughters get it! Bryan managed to stay out of the legal system, and I'll never know how, but there were many many days and nights I prayed for him to be arrested! (Does that make me a bad mom? LOL) Like Annette, I have a God Box, except mine is a list, and you and your son hold the #5 spot!
i remember when i was using hard, we lived out of motel rooms. this takes me back to the last time i used, i got arrested, and i stayed in jail for like 2 weeks, then i was sad and i needed to stop.i hope it is the same for him. i was so lucky, my mother, rest her soul, never told me of the pain and anguish she went through night after night, my oldest daughter still won't forgive me. by the grace of god I have two beautiful little girls who are 4 and 5 and they have never seen me high.prayers for you and yours may you get some peace tonight knowing he is safe and warm and will have to detox. it won't be easy. it is soo worth it
Oh Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. Many above had said that this could be a blessing in disguise. My son has a felony and has been in the jail system, and my "other son" in the prison system. I have learned a lot about the ins and outs of the judicial system in my county. I don't know where you are but write me if you want to hear of our experience...in fact if you live in Orange County, please write me!! There are some programs that could really help your boy and possibly rid him of his felony.I am thinking of you today. Please email me....
Maybe he will be willing to go to rehab instead of jail? He also make get a "wobble" which means if he completes his probation and stays clean you can go back and it will be reduced and he can legally write he has never been convicted. As you know B went to jail for selling and was high. Had he not been caught dealing his sentence would have been lighter. But they glady allowed him to go to Detox and rehab. They know it is dangerous for people to detox in jail. I don't know if B will stay clean but I keep saying if this is one of several rehab stays we have one down and that can't be a bad thing. Hang in there. I know it is hard. When B got arrested on Jan 21, 2011 I cried and cried and then thought this was the best thing that could have happened. And you know what? It was! 30 days in rehab (although 90 would have been best) court ordered was a blessing. Maybe now he will be willing to at least try something other than what he is doing.
It is hard to do when something like this happens, but remember God does have a plan for him, even if it's not the plan - or even close! - to what you would want for his path.I'm praying for you both & sending love & hugs to you.
Thank you so much, my sweet friends! I appreciate each and every comment. I am trusting God and getting out of the way, this is my son's path... Still haven't talked to him, but I can tell he's tried to call here twice, just so happened we haven't been home when he's called. I think hubby might go visit him this weekend. I'm sticking to my plans- women's retreat with my church. I'll probably write him, but I'm not too anxious to ever visit him in jail- not my thing. His life, his choices, it's not like we haven't shown our support for his sobriety- it's his turn now, to help himself. Love to all.
I am sorry but it may be a big wake up call for him. It is his turn now--you are so right.
I'm so, so sorry ... but I hope, as everyone has expressed here, that this will be a wake-up call for your son, that this might be the turning point.Praying,Cheri
Thank you, Syd and Cheri- very much appreciate your comments!